Several Moral Dilemmas

This is the playground Tim built Violet for her birthday. She loves it. He put in lots of sweat hours in July putting this together, and then my parents and older brother outfitted it with the play things. Every warm day I get her out here to play, but there is a problem.

To the neighborhood cats running loose, this is a huge restroom.

The first time I made this discovery I cleaned it all up, put it in a bucket, walked it to my neighbors house, and dumped it all in their yard. While they were home. And the blinds were open. I was mad, I internally dared them to come out and say something to me. After all, I had seen their cat in my back yard, and in the street, and everywhere else.

There are 2 moral dilemmas at work here:

I have come to realize that there are 2 cats frequenting my yard, both the same very obvious breed, but one is much fuzzier, and runs a different direction when I catch him or her.

I feel bad for my emotional/motherly/hormonal rampage that resulted in polluting my neighbors yard with what may or may not have come from their cat.

Should I go apologize? Bring cookies? Tell them that not only are they to blame, but so is another mystery cat owner?

I am also at a loss about what to do with these cats.

I went online to read about ideas to keep cats away:

keep the soil(gravel) moist, put down chicken wire, lemon oil......

I have done these things in succession with no luck.

I am currently yelling at them or firing a BB gun in their general direction. Not at them.

I am ready to trap them and take them to the Humane Society. But is that too extreme?

On to the next issue:

This is one of the twins. He is one of my 4 squirrels this season who daily receives my cast offs from the kitchen. He is a baby. I love him. As I said, he is also a twin. Their Momma brings them to eat, but much of the time the 4th guy, who I call "Fat Daddy", runs them off. He's a pig and taps on my slider.

Now, I realize keeping several squirrels around is not going to help with the aforementioned feline situation.

Should I stop feeding them? Is it wrong to feed wildlife in general?

I'm just so unsure of my place in this world these days.
Next issue:

I think my daughter is ready for a cell phone.

Just kidding.

She can't have one until she pays for it, or I win the Lottery, or she goes to kindergarten. We'll see how it goes.

She thinks everything is a cell phone and babbles away. This here is a baby monitor.

But here is the problem with this cuteness, and the fact that I was taking pictures of it:

She was sitting on the end table while she was doing it.

At the time I didn't even know she could get on the couch by herself, let alone the table.

Do you photograph your kids when they are doing something not only naughty, but unsafe?

I do. Way more that I should.
Moving on.....

The last issue is TV.

Or "TTTEEEE!!!" as Violet calls it.

How much TV do your kids watch? Do they insist on being in your bed to do it?

This only happens on busy or sicky days, but I can see now my child wants to try and make this a daily occurrence. And so begins our battle of wills.

Help me. I feel so lost without you.

I'll be watching TV while I wait for your guidance.